It’s almost that time of year again. A time of reflection and a time of new beginning. A new slate, a new piece of fresh, clean, crisp, bright white paper to start writing on using your best pen and best handwriting. Can you smell the freshness of it?
I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the changes I’d like to implement in my life for 2017 and my thoughts keep leaning toward peace, forgiveness, pleasure and beauty.
Those thoughts leave me interested in learning to let go of everything that I have no control over. And, if I really break that down further I have to ask myself, what do I really have control over? Nothing.
So in realizing that in truth, I have control over nothing, except for my actions or perhaps my reactions, this is what I’ve come up with.
#1 PEACE AND FORGIVENESS
Letting go of………
- the hurt feelings
- the regrets
- the wish I had done this or that back then
- the I wasn’t treated right
- the I wish I hadn’t done that
- the I did the best I could
- the I’m not good enough
There is a reason the days of the past are called the “good old days” and I’m sure that I’ve never seen “I wish I had worked one more day” engraved on a headstone.
For a long time now I’ve been trying to be uber conservative and frugal and I don’t think there is anything wrong with that, until it becomes extreme and you realize that your happiness isn’t being considered in that frugal conservative process.
Now, I’m not saying I’m going to start spending money willy nilly or not continue to make mindful frugal decisions. As a matter of fact I intend to become even more detailed in tracking our finances and expenses because retirement is a year closer and we need to be ready.
What I’m saying is I want to find a balance. I’m not going to quickly pass on the fun, the events or opportunities for pleasure simply because I don’t want to spend the money. I’m not going to make money the ultimate reason for doing or not doing….
- I’m going to plant the flowers even though we can’t eat them
- I’m going to buy the great pair of shoes because I just love them
- I’m going to buy the red lipstick
- I’m going to get my hair done
- I’m going to do my Yoga
- I’m going to wear out those new exercise shoes
- I’m going to eat the chocolate cake and the ice cream
- I’m going to dress myself in my style, not just for my comfort
- I’m going to give thought to my wants to understand why I want…..
While I was succesful in 2016 with quitting smoking and quitting a 20 year use of Prilosec, which I am extremely happy about. 2016 was still a bit of a crappy year. I’m not going to whine about it, because nobody likes a whiner. I’m just going to say that I had a lot of illness and injury and even battled with a bit of depression. With all of that, I lost sight of what is most important to me.
I am loved by the most amazing Man and I am completely head over heals in love with him. He is the love of my life and all he wants is for me to be happy. It took us a long time to find each other and I don’t intend to waste one more single minute on anything less important and EVERYTHING is less important than my husband.
What about you, do you have any resolutions you want to share. I’d love to hear about them.